When a woman in a certain
African tribe knows she is pregnant,
she goes out into the wilderness with a few friends
and together they pray and meditate until they
hear the song of the child.
They recognize that every soul has its own vibration
that expresses its unique flavour and purpose.
When the women attune to the song, they sing it
out loud.
Then they return to the tribe
and teach it to everyone else. When the child
is born, the community gathers and sings the child's
song to him or her. Later,
when the child enters education, the village gathers
and chants the child's song.
When the child passes through
the initiation to adulthood ,
the people again come together and sing. At the
time of marriage,
the person hears his or her song. Finally, when
the soul is about to pass
from this world, the family and friends gather
at the person's bed,
just as they did at their birth, and they sing
the person to the next life.
In the African tribe there is
one other occasion upon which the villagers sing
to the child. If at any time during his or her
life, the person commits a crime or abhorrent
social act, the individual is called to the centre
of the village and the people in the community
form a circle around them. Then they sing their
song to them.
The tribe recognizes that the
correction for antisocial behaviour is not punishment;
it is love and the remembrance of identity. When
you recognize your own song, you have no desire
or need to do anything that would hurt another.
A friend is someone who knows
your song and sings it to you when you have forgotten
it. Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes
you have made or dark images you hold about yourself.
They remember your beauty when you feel ugly;
your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence
when you feel guilty; and your purpose when you
are confused.
You may not have grown up in an
African tribe that sings your song to you at crucial
life transitions, but life is always reminding
you when you are in tune with yourself and when
you are not. When you feel good, what you are
doing matches your song, and when you feel awful,
it doesn't. In the end, we shall all recognize
our song and sing it well. You may feel a little
warily at the moment, but so have all the great
singers. Just keep singing and you'll find your
way home.
to life
By Alan Cohen
author of "Living from the Heart."
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